I have a tendency to say “if” I do something, instead of “when” I do this. For a lot of issues, this isn’t a super big deal. The mind set of wondering “if” you would complete a goal, compared to the mindset of preparing to complete goal.
Before I published, I was in the habit of using “if” phrases.
“If I publish…”
“If I become an author…”
“If I finish…”
This is where “if” becomes dangerous. “If” implies an uncertainty about the future of events. I didn’t even realize that I was using this word until one day my grandmother corrected me.
“When you publish your novel, not if.”
I hadn’t even realized my uncertainty until she brought it up to me. She was right. So I started to change the way I was speaking about myself, and in the end, changed the way I was thinking about myself.
By changing “if” to “when” we are encouraging ourselves on a subconscious level that we will complete the goal at hand. We will complete the task that we set out to do. We are also expressing to others our certainty and confidence in the completion of our task.
“When I publish…”
“When I become an author…”
“When I finish…”
It is one word. One single little word that changes a sentence. As a writer, I understand the importance of words. The power that words can have over ourselves and others. By changing “if” to “when,” you have the power to change your life. It has changed mine.
Until next time,